Literally, the title of this blog post came from the KFC commercial that was just on in the background. Sounded appropriate since I have a lot I want to talk about get out of my system. I figure this time, I will go with my standard short stories/rambles. I like it better that way, since I can get out everything on my mind without worrying about the “flow” of the blog…. so anyways, on to the good stuff…
1. Moby Wrap. I purchased the Moby Wrap online about 3 months ago. The main reason why I wanted to get one was because while I was pregnant I saw a Mom in my store (I work at the local mall) who was wearing a similar one, and I loved the way it looked, and it was hugging her babe so close and it just looked BOMB. I asked her where she got it and she had told me that she got it from Babies’R'Us, upstairs. So I rushed up and looked, found them, but got a little bit of pre-mom sticker shock. They retailed at $55!!! I obviously didn’t get one because I was hoping (HOPING) that someone would maybe get it for me for my baby shower. Now that I think about it, my Mom did offer to buy it but I felt kind of bad because of how pricey it was.. So anyways, fast forward to after the baby was born about 2 months. now I had my own sense of mothering, not just everything I had heard from everyone else. I discovered I was a parent practicing attachment parenting and co-sleeping with the baby, things I hadn’t even THOUGHT of at all while pregnant (Actually, when registering for baby stuff we actually LAUGHED at the co-sleeper bed and I said ”Who would want to sleep with their baby?! Crazy people!” Little did I know, I was one of those ”crazy people”.) So, now that I was all in my parenting nook, I knew that Baby wearing was definitely something I wanted to take part in! I still had my brain set on that wrap I had seen the mom wearing at the mall, and i was determined to find one which was cheaper, or better, or whatnot. Well, I thought I did all the research I needed to do.. googled, fourms, etc. and I found the Moby, which was IDENTICAL to the wrap the Mama at my store had been using. I read reviews people said they loved them, I ordered. Waited. And was SOOOO excited when it finally arrived in the mail. Now, in the reviews, I had read that it was just an EXTREMELY long piece of fabric, so I was prepared when I opened it and found a large roll. However, I guess I wasn’t prepared for how it would fit on my frame. (I am a really petite person, I don’t want to get into numbers because I already deal with a lot of hate, generally because people don’t see how its possible that I just had a baby 6 months ago…but anyways,…) It is soooo overwhelming, and there is wayyyy to much. It literally hangs on the ground as I try to put it on..which isn’t so great for times like, our recent zoo trip. the reviews also said, that at first it is a little hard to put on but with practice it gets easy..LIARS..I’ve practiced mannny times, and I always seem to struggle still (twisted, or whateverrrr..) So today I decided I’m going to try to sell it! I already have ordered a hand made MaiTei b ABc baby carrier that was handmade by a lady in the US, i got it off Ebay and I’m hoping that it will turn out to be a good purchase! It was only $28, so already its pretty much better…I will let you know how it turns out! Also today, I decided on a whim to check out the local second-hand baby store to see if they had any inexpensive slings or whatnot. I managed to find a Slingling for only $20! (they sell online for $45) Then, when I got home….its actually too big. I need a 22″ one and this one is 25″…..geeeesh. Good thing I have 7 days to return it. So back to Ebay I will go. I just really hope that I can find a way to get rid of this Moby! I feel like I wasted money and nothing frustrates me more than thinking about money wasted….
2. Teen Mom. Just had to do a little bit about this show that is on MTV (Canada). While I was pregnant it was my favourite show! I started to watch it while I was pregnant, i figured I could relate to these girls since they were (somewhat) close in age to me. Not really knowing anything about parenting myself, just really to get a look into the real lives of young moms. It wasn’t until 6 months later when this new season started that I realized that I actually am not anything like them in any way. Which I guess kind of proves one of Freud’s theories right…I think it was Freud, about when you are 18 and really discovering yourself, or whatnot…I don’t know, google it. Anyways, so yea, I realized that I’m a lot more mature and grown-up than them than I gave myself credit for before. I can’t believe how the Dads are with responsibility, you can definitely tell they are so young! Most of the Moms are pretty good, but you have to grow up really fast when you have a baby and are young. You really don’t have a choice, whereas (unfortunately, guys/Dads kind of do). But anyways, there was this one part that really disturbed me. One mom Farrah, had to move into the guest house (due too circumstances with her mom that is too long to explain right now), when she arrived her baby Sophia, was really upset, obviously tired and weirded out by the extreme change of scenery (not to mention that the house was empty, so she probably sensed something weird…). so anyways. The baby is sitting on the floor, crying and looking at her mom (already breaking my heart..) and Farrah turns to her and says something like, “Sophia, don’t start this f*&$ing S$%^ right now” and then claps in her face and makes her cry even harder! (and spit out her Nukky :(… ) So then she puts a pillow across the door, steps out of the room and turns of the light. Leaves the poor babe, crying on the floor in the dark and says something like, “fine, if you want to to be that way then I’m not giving you any attention” and walks away. G and I felt sick. Literally. He didn’t understand what she was doing, and then I had to explain to him that people actually leave their babies to “cry-it-out” and that they consider it a method of parenting. He said to me, “Well wouldn’t it just be easier to find out what the baby wants and then stop them from crying?”. I love that he thinks this way btw :). But I guess for moms who aren’t breastfeeding or nursing it can be hard to soothe the babe….I know for me, generally if I put Non the boob, she will be okay…after a while of soothing, boobing, rocking, etc. but formula babies usually have NukNuks, sooo, you could give them that rock them to sleep soothe them, comfort them. I just don’t get how you could actually walk away from your crying, correction: BAWLING/SCREAMING child and not help them. I just vomited in my mouth at the thought of it….*sigh* but I guess that’s what classifies Gand I as “attachment parents” something I’d never heard of until my baby was 1 month old. I kind of hate that more parents aren’t like this, even my own mom doesn’t seem to be. For example when I tried to explain to my mom how upset this made me, she was like “Well, if the baby is colic and has been fed burped and there is nothing you can do then….” and she has made other comments before about leaving N in her crib to cry, and always gives me flack about the fact that N doesn’t even really USE her crib (Note; she hasn’t even laid in it the past WEEK at least, but I will get to that in a bit). Soo this is kind of ending my Teen Mom rant and starting my next one…(I guess I kind of can establish more of a “flow” to my blogs than I originally thought!)
3.Co-Sleeping, Attachment Parenting. Baby Schedule. Especially seeing and not liking what I saw on Teen Mom made me realize even more how different I am from other parents. I really hate to let my baby cry, and always get her to soothe her, I like to carry her everywhere, in my arms or in a wrap…and I sleep with my baby every night (and have since the day she was born), I breastfeed and use cloth diapers….. When I go to my playgroup I don’t even really talk to the other Moms about what parenting methods I use because generally, I get negative remarks like, “you sleep with your baby? aren’t you worried you”ll never get them out of your bed?”, or “you spoil her too much” (my personal fav, because I didn’t know you could spoil someone with love and affection? Google must have left that on out of my searches…). It really bugs me that there are actually people out there who let their babies “cry-it-out”….I’m not opposed to any other parenting method (formula, cribs, etc….) besides this one. I just don’t think that it is very healthy for a baby to cry. People say that when you don’t let them cry, you are teaching them that crying will get them to be held, (and etc.) , but I am confused…because isn’t that why babies cry to begin with? Because they need something? Usually when my babe crys, a little boob, some rocking, her swing, cuddles with mommy, or even just getting up to play for a bit…will always make her happy. and as of now, she can’t really communicate to me, “Mommy, I just don’t want to sleep right now”. If my baby is tired, she is going to sleep, and if she is going to cry, I’m going to soothe her. Just sounds like motherly instinct to me.. but who am I to say?
[sidenote: it definitely took me 3 DAYS to get this all out, and it got to the point where I lost the heat of some (INTENSE) moments]
Until next time,
R. xoxo
) So anyhoo, they meet every Friday and I’m hoping to head out this Friday or next to see what its all about! and hopefully meet at least ONE other co-sleeping Mama who I can talk to about everything and anything. Its really hard not knowing anyone who does what I do, because when I try to talk to them about stuff or explain how I do thinks, they wither don’t understand or give me a hard time about it. Especially my Grandma and Mom, they seem to be the WORSSSTTTT…telling me all about how I will regret it and whatever…but again, that's a whole other story.
